Soccer Star

What do you do when you have a child who possesses the natural talent but not exactly the drive?

I am going to let her do her thing, but it is tough. I am not sure that I have talked about it here at TS, but Little Kid withdrew out of dance class in the winter. She had been taking classes since she was 2.5 and she was honestly (and I know I am biased) a good dancer. She was coordinated, she had no problems memorizing routines and she was bored. I think that she burned out. At age 6.

Same thing with soccer. In her first game last year, she scored five goals. She is small and fast and again, amazingly coordinated in a way that her mom never mastered. This is her second year in soccer and if she pushes herself, she does well. At practice the other day she won both the games that her coach put the girls through. But as quick as she is, she does not like to run. Last year, she decided that she wants to play goalie and she has stuck to that. Unfortunately, there is no goalie in U7 soccer and won't be for three years. It is like she came to the conclusion after that first game that scoring goals is okay, but now that she has done it, she wants to be a defender. I don't know what to do with that beyond just let her be.

I am not ever going to be one of those parents who is overly involved in ensuring that their child is a sports star - or any kind of star to be honest. We support our children, we let them try different things, but we are pretty hands off when it comes to the actual activity. My own parenting philosophy, right of wrong, is that our children will benefit from exposure to different teachers, coaches and authority figures and they don't need me out there trying to coach them from the sidelines. But at the same time, I want her to follow through and I want her to try her best. So it is a fine line that we walk with wanting her to have opportunities but wanting her to also appreciate those opportunities that a lot of kids do not get.

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Ah, parenting. Just when you think you have the hang of it, your girl decides to paint her vanity with nail polish and your boy flubs his first science test of the year (spelling, not as surprised but science? He loves science!). But that is another story for another day.

Happy Tuesday!

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  1. Not being a parent yet, I don't know, but I was glad that my parents forced me to be more dedicated. My dad played catch with me and helped me practice for softball every single day after he came home from work. I went from barely being able to catch the ball at age 9 to being an All-State player in high school. But it was probably more hard work for him than it was for me and if he hadn't been so dedicated, I wouldn't have put in those hours by myself.

    1. I definitely want her to be more dedicated. I am hoping that when it is not 90 degrees outside, she might get up a bit more gumption. We do kick around the soccer ball a bit but I probably practice more with her brother, as he and I play the same sports. It is great that your Dad was so involved with your activities. Thanks for the comment!


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